Quality Counselling

• Counselling Quotations
• British and American Proverbs on Counsel

Counselling Quotations

If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me, and eaten alive. [Audre Lorde]

If it's free, it's advice; if you pay for it, it's counseling; if you can use either one, it's a miracle. [Jack Adams]

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. [Confucius]

To function usefully as yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is a great accomplishment, also for the phlegmatic-minded. [T. Kinnes]

To bring what you think, what you say and what you do in harmony, is a key. The question is what it opens up to. [T. Kinnes]

A decent counsellor informs, bears witness, reasons and explains. A better and enlivening counsellor exposes, uncovers and inspires as well. [T. Kinnes]

Fairytales that end with "They lived happily ever after," probably do not take into account a rising need for marriage counselling aiming for love and intimacy. [T. Kinnes]

In a marriage, the chance to grow is rarely based on blaming one another and getting hardened. [T. Kinnes]

He that gives good advice, builds with one hand; he that gives good counsel and example, builds with both; but he that gives good admonition and bad example, builds with one hand and pulls down with the other. [Francis Bacon]

In matters of religion and matrimony I never give any advice; because I will not have anybody's torments in this world or the next laid to my charge. [Lord Chesterfield 1694-1773: letter to Arthur Charles Stanhope, 12 October 1765. In Oq 6] Advice is seldom welcome, and those who need it the most, like it the least. [Lord Chesterfield]

If you have marriage problems, you might profit from new skills and more emotional security, as the case may be. [T. Kinnes]

It takes nearly as much ability to know how to profit by good advice as to know how to act for one's self. [François de La Rochefoucauld]

As for wise counsellors, he must be a wise man himself who is capable of distinguishing one. [With Diogenes]

British and American Proverbs on Counsel

Advice should precede the act. [Ap 9]

Advice is something the wise don't need and the fools won't take. [Ap 9]

Counsel must be followed, not praised [Ap 118].

Examine well the counsel that favours your desires [Ap 118].

In vain he asks advice that will not follow it. [Ap 10]

Many receive advice, but only the wise profit from it. [Ap 10]

Good counsel is cast away upon the selfconceited [Ap 118].

The wise man keeps his own counsel [Ap 118].

Take heed is a fair thing. [Dp 3]

Do not darken counsel with words without knowledge [Ap 118].

Good counsel brings good fruit [Ap 118].

Like counsellor, like counsel. [Dp 4]

Counsel is irksome when the matter is past remedy. [Dp 3]

When a thing is done, advice comes too late. [Dp 3]

When the rats want advice, they never ask the mice. [Ap 11]

Ask advice, but use your own common sense. [Ap 10]

If the counsel be good, no matter who gave it. [Dp 5; cf. Ap 118]

Advice may be least heeded when most needed. [Cf. Ap 9]

Whatever advice you give, try and be brief. [Cf. Ap 10]

Advice to a fool goes in one ear and out the other. [Ap 9]

He was slain that had warning, not he that took it. [Dp 4]