Here are about 135 sayings, some from the Confucian Analects, others from other Eastern sources, and some attributed to T. Kinnes.
A change of setting can change a character weakness into a strength.
A false partner can turn a family and other great projects into disasters.
A future full of possibilities and a past full of accomplishments do not let them distract you from living full well in the moment.
A good parent and teacher foresee or forestall one's children's potentials too, from their past performances.
A groan or sigh can tell it will be fine to stop.
A group of people can come up with good ideas if the conditions are lax and fit for it.
A hearty laughter can evoke a gut response.
A hunch to follow up is one about making a back-up copy.
A sound smile is worth accomplishing, but not always.
A very great teacher may be dreaming big dreams.
After treachery, many blessings fly away. * [From the East, by Blavatsky).
Alternatives could prove more effective than ultimatums.
As a digging man sometimes comes to water, so a zealous student at times gains sound knowledge from being coached * (From the East, by Blavatsky).
Asking for help may work some times outside your family.
At times it feels pressing to do some artistic work.
Be careful about who get an entrance to your inner circles of life – it could pay to screen them well.
Being all right constructive makes good folks feel good about themselves.
By taking good care of our clients, they will open doors we could not open ourselves.
Can I really trust my own wisdom when it does not seem to make any sense?
Career can be a quite airy thief of true identity.
Cheaters often prosper - temporarily.
Children absorb and reflect attitude and some ideas that hover around them.
Children tend to prefer television so long as they are not having better options.
Coaches support people who are ready to own their lives.
Coaching is about clients becoming responsible.
Coaching needs to go deep and be proficiently delivered to be of any long-lasting value..
Decent motivation comes from inside.
Developing well tends to creates more freedom in a life.
Each of us senses a bit differently.
Enjoy life's movements as well as you can.
Even liars speak the truth some times.
Every experience contains one's Deep Inner and perceiving Self too - a game-changer.
Every tree has its shadow (From the East, by Blavatsky).
Gentle coaching may work.
Good and decent help does not always require words.
Good coaches stay on the sidelines while the team reaps some glory.
Good food makes people happy.
Gossip will distort as it spreads, and can weaken its victims.
Great works need perseverance (From the East, by Blavatsky).
Have a contingency plan if you can.
Having enough peace of mind is vital in so many ways and alleys of living.
Having fun is a long-time favourite.
Honesty and tact are a great team of virtues.
I feel happier if I wear an orange jacket, said the prison inmate to the guard.
If it is not quite effortless, could we be doing it wrong?
If we give children really good care for a long time, they may end up getting it better for a long time than fallen ones around.
If you do not love yourself well enough, at least be grateful for having children to learn from.
If you do not wear shoes shaped like feet, your feet get shaped more like those shoes.
Imagination can come up with good solutions where none had hitherto been found.
Improving any organisation starts with getting out of the clouds.
In the absence of firmly adhered to rules, people make up their own.
Information is of little use if I can't remember where
Instincts may still serve us well.
It could pay to keep one's toolbox up-to-date and well maintained - for the sake of appreciation too.
It is best to learn from other peoples' mistakes and experiences.
It is largely better not to have problems than to solve them.
It is vital not to avoid making our children the centre of all our lives.
Judge a man by his deeds also (From the East, by Blavatsky).
Just because people do not know me very well does not mean they do not get in love with me.
Just because you cannot see any ideas or ghosts, does not mean there are none hovering around you.
Later, technology may catch up with me a lot.
Learning lies in a lifestyle.
Let us contrive to think well (From the East, by Blavatsky).
Living in the moment and living in fear are the same.
Lots of problems started out as good ideas.
Many decisions in life appear to be made just subconsciously.
Many sacrifices may be the result of poor planning.
Material success is experienced as overrated if it is not deeply fulfilling.
Men seldom go fishing because they like eating fish.
Money is a fine way of keeping score at times.
Money is a means to - not necessarily happiness.
More learning leads to more humility. Lack of humility is very often a sign of ignorance.
Not everyone is coachable.
Once the roots are firmly established, the Way will grow (Confucius Analects 1.2.).
One may succeed without coaching, but perhaps not as easily and in a well balanced way.
One of the great mysteries of our time may be a wide network..
One's true self can be deeply hidden, but not from anybody.
One thing worth suspecting is that some coaches resort to banalities.
Peace can start within one of us.
People harvest what they can with the tools and things they have.
People have difficulty asking for what they want.
Pub dangers look much the same no matter what city or town the pubs are in.
Relationships are built on solid agreements well kept.
Sandals look prettier on well kept feet.
Silk underwear is worth the money.
Small mistakes could prevent big failures.
Some opportunities come in disguise.
Some people are better than their belief.
Some people connect at a deep level.
Some persons call banalities coaching, are allowed to and also get money for dealing in it.
Spending just a moment acknowledging a child with our well-directed attention does wonders for her self-esteem.
Success happens more easily when you are influenced by the right people.
Sugar acts like a dangerous drug these days.
Telling the truth well is a precious gift for sound people.
That something is really funny, does not mean I should say it.
The authentic Self - a game-changer
The best coaches coach with their hearts as well as their minds.
The body can give hints on what is going on inside.
The goal of a good religion is fulfilment.
The grass can be cared for.
The longer a habit has been held, the more energy could be needed to break it.
The longer we take to be who we are, the longer it takes to develop soundly.
The Master [Confucius] taught four things: cultural refinement, comportment, dutifulness, and trustworthiness (Confucius Analects 7.25).
The more empowered we are the more we can empower others.
The more I depend upon forces outside of myself, the lesser freedom I have.
The opinions of others tend to reveal something about themselves.
The word "love" when overused will not build my success,
The world could be a better place with cash on hand.
The world gives signs along our journey; it is for us to try to read them.
There are worse things to turn to for comfort than chocolate without added suger.
There is a dallying child in each of us, and it find glee in good play.
There is more to truth than good love.
There is more to wealth and success than money, shows Maslows pyramid of needs simply.
There is much strength in suave gentleness.
There is no place for sarcasm in coaching.
There is sound coaching and other forms of it.
Those who are honest may get it better in life.
To be tall isn't all -
To hide from students and clients may be a treasured thing if you need time for other purposes than theirs.
To live in the present also means on top of what the background and circumstances have shaped so far.
To wage a war on many fronts and battlefield takes a of energy.
True leaders understand ancient truths and laws of human nature.
Using history to explain present failures may not work full well as far as solutions go.
Value the child within.
We can learn to our profit what someone learned long before us.
We may be doing the best we can, even though it seems otherwise to folks around us.
Well spent time is spent for good.
"What are the four vices?" Confucius replied, "Executing the people without having instructed them – this is cruelty. Expecting perfection without having warned people when they are about to make a mistake – this is oppressive. Demanding punctuality without having yourself issued proclamations in a timely fashion – this is to be a pest. Being consistently stingy when it comes to disbursing funds and rewarding people – this is of?cious." [Confucius Analects 20:2).
What is coming from the heart is hardly all wrong.
What most people do does not always depend on expertise, wisdom, technical know-how, strategic brilliance or heartfelt advice.
What we expect to get may not be what we end up with later.
When money gets into something it could be fit to get the bargain in writing.
"When Zilu asked you whether or not one should immediately take care of something upon learning of it, you told him one should not, as long as one's father and elder brothers were still alive. When Ran Qiu asked the same question, however, you told him that one should at once take care of it. I am confused, and humbly ask to have this explained to me," someone asked Confucius. Her said, "Ran Qiu is overly cautious, and so I wished to urge him on. Zilu, on the other hand, is too impetuous, and so I sought to hold him back." [So: "Different strokes for different folks." Cf. Confucius Analects 11:22).
Work can be quite as much fun as play.
Work toward a want if you find it fulfilling or a stepping-stone to something of greater value.
Worry can mean wasted time and energy.
Yang Huo wanted to have an audience with Confucius, but Confucius would not see him. Yang Huo therefore sent Confucius a suckling pig as a gift. Confucius waited until Yang Huo was not at home before going to offer his thanks, but ended up running into Yang Huo on the road.
Yang Huo called out to Confucius, "Come! I would like to speak with you." [After Confucius approached him,] he said, "Clutching a treasure to one's bosom, and thereby letting the state go to ruin – could this be called Good?"
Confucius replied, "No, it could not."
"Being eager to serve, but repeatedly missing opportunities to do so – could this be called wise?"
Confucius replied, "No, it could not." [Confucius Analects 17.1]
Yang Huo was a household steward of the Ji Family who was gradually usurping the power of his masters, just as they had usurped it from the Ducal house. In the light of these developments it is understandable that Confucius is reluctant to associate himself with Yang Huo in any way. It is clear that Yang Huo gives Confucius the pig because Confucius will then be ritually obligated to come to his house and give a bow of thanks, and that Confucius tries to avoid having to actually see Yang Huo by choosing a time when he is not at home, only to have his plan foiled by a chance meeting on the road (Condensed from Edward Slingerland's explanatiion.]
The analects of Kongfutzu (sayings of Confucius) may be taken for banalities at first and second glance, but many of them are in fact culture-forming. Traditional Chinese culture owes much to them. It may be different with coaching banalities "over there", "over the pond" (in USA), for they are a motley crew, some hodgepodge, really. "It is not gold all that glimmers," is a proverb for the occasion.
Then, what distinguishes excellent and Confucian coaching from other forms of coaching? Deep-going coaching depends on a deep soil in the receiver. One has to go for a fit level of depth. If the receiver is shallow and fond of fool's gold that glitters, the way is to offer coaching that glitters, and with something of worth in it too, so as not to compromise one's ethics and standing - and just in case the other has more depth than what a coach detects.
Further, you may come to wander what is included under the very broad term 'coaching' in today's America, for example. First a simple survey from Collins Dictionary - it is online:
Coaching: The act of training a person or team of people in a particular sport. The second: the act of training staff in business or office practice. The third: the act of giving a person special teaching in a particular subject, to give tuition or instruction to (a pupil)
More extensively, rooted in Wikipedia's article on the subject: Coaching is training or development where a coach supports a learner in achieving a specific personal or professional goal.
In the coaching business some persons offer advice and guidance and others learn, but coaching differs from mentoring in focusing on specific tasks or objectives, as opposed to general goals or overall development.
Coaching uses a range of communication skills (such as restatements, listening, questioning, clarifying etc.) to help clients shift their perspectives
Good coaching skills can be used in almost all types of coaching, so coaching can apply to supporting clients in any human endeavour, ranging from their concerns in health, personal, professional, sport, social, family, political, spiritual dimensions, etc.
It has been stated that not everyone needs a coach and not everyone can benefit from using a coach. All the same, coaches work with clients to help them better manage time, organize, set goals and complete projects. One overarching goal of coaching is to help clients develop an "inner coach", reflective or planning skills to deal with daily life challenges
Business coaching is a type of human resource development. It provides positive support, feedback and advice on an individual or group basis to improve personal effectiveness in the business setting. Coaches may assist or help their clients advance toward such goals as communication, performance management, career and personal changes, enhancing developing strategic thinking, dealing effectively with an organization. Further, business coaches may refer to themselves as consultants.
Many organizations expect their senior leaders and middle managers to coach their team members to reach increased job satisfaction, personal growth, and career development, and executive coaching may have a positive impact on workplace performance.
Career coaching focuses on work and career and is similar to career counseling. A common term for a career coach is career guide.
Financial coaching focuses on helping clients attain specific financial goals and aspirations they have set for themselves. A financial coach, also called money coach, typically focuses on helping clients to restructure and reduce debt, reduce spending, develop saving habits, and develop financial discipline. Outcomes are unsettled so far. By contrast, a financial adviser refers to a wider range of professionals who typically provide clients with financial products and services.
Life coaching concentrates on personal development. Life coaching is the process of helping people identify and achieve personal goals. Life coaches may have studied counseling psychology or related subjects, but a life coach does not act as a therapist, counselor, or health care provider. Besides, psychological intervention lies outside the scope of life coaching.
Health and wellness coaching in a nutshell: Some differentiate between health coaches and wellness coaches, in that health coaches are qualified "to guide those with acute or chronic conditions and/or moderate to high health risk", and wellness coaches provide guidance and inspiration "to otherwise 'healthy' individuals who desire to maintain or improve their overall general health status"
Health coaching is a way to help individuals "manage" their illnesses and conditions, also chronic illnesses. The coach will use such as encouragement while aiming for lowered health risks, among other strategies.
Homework coaching focuses on equipping a student with the study skills required to succeed academically. Tutoring, on the other hand, typically seeks to improve a student's performance in a specific subject.
Relationship coaching is coaching applied to personal and business relationships.
In sports, a coach is an individual that provides supervision and training to the sports team or individual players. Sports coaches are involved in administration, athletic training, competition coaching, and representation of the team and the players.
One of the challenges in the field of coaching is upholding levels of professionalism, standards and ethics. To this end, some have codes of ethics and member standards. Still, ethics and standards are variable in the field. Critics see life coaching as akin to psychotherapy but without restrictions, oversight, regulation, or established ethical policies. There are no state regulation or licensing requirements for coaches.
The vast majority of life and wellness coaches have no formal training or certification. However, with the growing popularity of coaching, many colleges and universities now offer coach training programs that are accredited by the International Coach Federation (ICF). Some courses offer a life coach certificate after just a few days of training, Programs accredited by the ICF require a minimum of 125 student contact hours, 10 hours of mentor coaching and a performance evaluation process. This is extremely little training compared to the amount of training that goes into some other helping professionals.
[Based on Wikipedia, "Coaching"]
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