What is called "good" - at least tenable? Some answers are found on this menu-like page. Much content goes well into real-life values and issues. And people far and wide tend to pick and choose, and some prefer to mask their life-fare values, which are probably dearest to them. Thus, see what people sell themselves to, what they do, over and above what they say. That could come in handy; "you never know".
The page has three parts:
We discern between three main types of motivations:
1a. "We-Aims" - A Sample
1b: Dealing with Opponents - A Sample
1c. Large, Common Concerns and Goals - A Sample
These are titbits for educational ends
Sound legitimations and careful modulations of arrays matter:
2a.1 - Legitimation sample
2a.2 - Further sample
2b. Modulations sample
2c. Linking up, sample
To remain adequately careful, polite, and guarded comes in addition.
In part slapstick-looking, but in essence useful
Good, favourable and careful study of the cognitive items here on this page, helps better thinking in general. If things then go well or better, a sure indication is that you don't sit alone and swear in the night. Another sign is that your penis is not crushed. Let it be a little sign of self-independence and true assertiveness.
If you make use of our know-how in the art of formulation, a lot of maybe's should be added by yourself:
Master things in time, for there are often many a need for a head start and becoming advancingly functional in some ways or waters (terrains). Being in time tends to help. Have good gear (outfit) on top of or in addition to these facets of the art of presenting oneself and own findings, starting from scratch or better.
Then you have to know how to preserve your valued assets.
In this survey we have been into three parts:
(1) One that deals with common motivations: (a) open and friendly; (b) Underhand sorts; and (c) Organic-looking, fit for new friendships.
(2) The second part deals with open-ended educative legitimation, or justifications of two sorts: (a) Constructive; (b) Advancing oneself or one's ends in a pucker, minority or in the face of opposition - Besides there are modulations that can be added to any utterance (proposition, assertion) to make it look fluid, or to bolster it somehow, to make it less biting or wilful-looking. - Finally, linking oneself or one's stuff to good and reliable persons is good, whereas linking oneself to bigwigs may lead downhill towards being made use of in many hundred ways as time goes by.
(3) The third part shows very general ways of handling routines and encounters smartly. Blandness and tact are great helpers in a civilised society. Politeness pays a lot of times.
You can be of this persuasion: To get it cosy is not all bad. Crime pays lots of times. Careful study leads to better mastery in general. And this little array of standards or norms that often drift and float under the surface of items and assertions, is real help against getting hoodwinked. The hoodwinked guy can become brainwashed next. There is no need for that.
This looks like real help towards mastery of the art of living or expressing more poignantly - but you have to do a lot yourself. That's one of the more solid parts of self-assertiveness, self-mastery and what artistry in the long art of solid living leads up to. In the meantime, you can have lots of fun from this long series of slogans to add and mix for "how to live" or "how to express solidly yourself". It can all help boldness on and up.
To function fluently, candidly and masterfully in your own right isn't too bad either . . . Now, drop me a note if things get wonderful, but not too wonderful to speak about.