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Absence  ☥ Adversity  ☥ Advice  ☥ Ambition  ☥
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LoMany higher sides of man become absent if much unminded, brutalised or degraded

Absence may increase great loves. [B = British]

Far from court, far from care. [B]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but don't stay away too long. [A = (also) American]

He that is absent is soon forgotten. [A]

He is more easily found guilty who is not at home. [Cf. B]

He that fears you present could love your very long absence.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder for no reason at all. [Cf. A]

The absent are quite easily blamed.

Some people are conspicuous by their presence, and others by their absence. [A]

If a person is away, his rights may be lost by dwindling. [B]

Long absence may bring on forgetting. [Cf. B]

Man's absence is the helper of the soil.

Out of sight, out of mind. [B]

Present to the eye, present to the mind. [B]

Seldom blossoming, more easily forgotten.

The cat is absent, the mice prance.

There is danger in the absence of fear. [A]

If cats are not honoured, mice will be your playmates: it sounds like a fairy tale.

The absent saint gets no candle. [B]

Those present in a degrading place are not marked by handsome excuses.

Unminded, unmoaned. [B]

When the cat's away, the mice will play. [B]

It is as if the members of a family are ever good that are away. [Cf. B]

Far from eye, far from heart. [B]◊

Absence makes the heart wander. [A]

LoMice know much in their locations, neat cats a lot more

Separation secures manifest friendship. (Indian)

Absence of body is better than presence of mind in time of danger. [A]

Separation between cats and mice secures no manifest friendship between those groups, no matter what Indians make out. [Cf. B]

Canonisation of a cat changes our reasoning about it. (This took place in Egypt)

Walt Disney's half-canonisation of a mouse altered a whole generation's attitudes and reasonings around cats and mice. (This pervertion of nature's designs is in vogue in the West today)

The leopard is absent, so they play with the cubs. [A]◊

Little mice in the suburbs don't know enough and don't master enough.

Canonisation changes a friend.

LoThe mouse breeds too, and ever so often

Well loves the mouse that the cat's out of the house. Fairly often it breeds like a fog for it.


Oral tradition can be obscure, and sentences may be interpreted in different ways and along different lines. IN SUM

  1. Many higher sides of man become absent if much unminded and degenerated. It is to be bulwarked against full well.
  2. Little mice don't know enough in their suburban dwellings, cats that use them, know and master a lot more.
  3. Many dandies and mice live much in a fog, and don't bother to know it.

IN NUCE It is essential not to become unmindful or deeply unaware. Cats and mice know and live it too. They are not stupid.

Once again

The "big city game" has perhaps:

  1. its victims - they can be made use of and later exploited;
  2. open or hidden persecutors that see to that these things happen; and maybe or very likely
  3. phoney helpers, as found inside much corrupt bureaucracies (elsewhere). And there's a difference between being inadequate and corrupt.

While the urbanisation "games" continue, lots of people are made "wares" or "deliveries" for other agencies. Just as the increase of hospitals can reflect less health around, and a huge amount of laws spell much strife that is nicht gut. But do as best you can.




LoMisfortunes may use your old foes to no good ends, or the other way round

Adversity might be turned into the prosperity of the great. [Cf. A]

Misfortune comes to all men and most women. (Chinese)

Ill luck can be good for something. [Cf. B]

Adversity flatters no man. [A]

Don't compete with the great or you harvest their hidden adversity: clever lying can be one.

Adversity can be the first path to truth. [Cf. A]

Misfortunes hasten age. [B]

He gains enough who loses misfortune. [Cf. B]

Some misfortunes come of themselves. [Cf. B]

The wind in one's face makes one wise. (Shakespeare. Such a wind implies adversity) [B]

Sweet are the uses of adversity. (Shakespeare) [B]

Trouble brings experience and experience brings wisdom. [B]

Woes unite foes. [B]◊

Sweet are the uses of gold and jewels that make one lose lots of misfortunes. (Astrosophical tenet).

It is quite easy to bear the misfortunes of others. [Cf. B]

We can more easily bear adversity than self-contempt. [Cf. A]

Gold is tried by fire, brave men by adversity. [A]

LoAdversity often make us wiser if we donít fall too bad from our horsebacks

Adversity tries virtue. [A]

Prosperity discovers vice, adversity virtue. [A]

Adversity makes strange bedfellows. (Or misfortune, politics, and poverty - Shakespeare) [A]

There was a knot to be resolved before grand damage makes its harvest.

There is a knot in the lot of every one. [Cf. B]

Many can bear adversity, and some reap much contempt. [Cf. A]

An unhappy man's cart is easy to overturn. (If so: The unfortunate person is quite susceptible to further damage) [Cf. B]◊

Adversity often makes us wiser, and too late. [Cf. A]

Adversity can make a man wise, not rich. [Cf. B]

Much misfortune arrives on horseback but departs on foot. [B]

LoBe linked to one touchstone of friendship and hope there are many more

Adversity is the touchstone of friendship. [A] MM

Sound id functions assist friendships on and up somehow.

Sound wealth is the touchstone of adversity mastered. (8)

Without a sound id life you cannot thrive. (9)


  1. Ill luck can be good for something, as experience may brings wisdom.
  2. There are knots to be resolved in tactless lives.
  3. Adversity tends to be hard on former friendships and show a lot about who our real friends are, if any.
IN NUCE Ill luck should be resolved the sooner the better, and true friends are treasures. Buddha shows who our real friends are, if any.




LoOutstanding counsel should not be despised in front of the act

He that enquires all opinions, hardly knows what to do. [Cf. B]

He who won't take a fair woman's advice can be a fool. [Cf. B]

Counsel is mainly to be followed, not praised. [Cf. B]

Advice whispered sounds worthless. [Cf. B]

Advice should precede the act. [A]

A fool may give a wise man counsel. [A]

For long-range thriving a man should take counsel of all the world. (i.e. learn from the world and forerunners) [Cf. B]

Counsel is no command. [B]

Ill counsel at times mars all. [B]

Night is the mother of counsel. [B]

Maybe the advice of the young should not be despised either. (Cf. Rosalind Fergusson)

People give nothing as freely as advice. [A]

Maybe he that will not be counselled, cannot be helped. [B]

The best advice is often found on the pillow at night. [Cf. B]

Take counsel mainly of your own head if you reach up that high. [Cf. B]

Advice that isn't paid for isn't good. [A]

Counsel is to be given by the wise, the remedy by the rich. [B]

Though old and wise, yet still go for advice. [Cf. B]

Good counsel is cast away on the self-conceited. [A]

Take heed is a fair thing. [B]

Who will not be ruled by the rudder, may be ruled by the rock. (Those who will not be guided by advice and warning, must learn from disaster) [Cf. B]

They say advice when most needed is least heeded. [Cf. B]◊

Examine well the counsel that favours your desires. [A]

Bachelors' wives and maids' children are well taught. (Some are only too eager to offer counsel) [B]

If you wish sound advice, try an old, proficient man. [Cf. B]

Anybody or anything may give a wise man counsel. (Portens involved) [Cf. B]

Steer not after every mariner's direction. [B]

Counsel is irksome when the matter is past remedy. [B]

We may give advice, but we cannot give conduct. [B]

Though you have never so many counsellors, yet don't forsake the counsel of your own soul. [B]

Advice can be quite cheap. [Cf. A]

Advice to all, security for none. [A]

Advice often comes too late when a thing is done. [Cf. A]

Write down the advice of him who loves you, though you like it not at present. [B]

When a thing is done, advice can be too late. [Cf. B]

If the counsel be good, no matter who gave it. [B]

LoAwkward counsel can make you beheaded by certain women

Anger and haste hinder good counsel. [B]

Take the first advice of a woman and not the second. (It's valid if the first advice, based on intuition, is more reliable than the second, based on inferior reasoning) [B]

Many tend to offer advice rather than practical assistance to someone in an unpleasant situation. (Rosalind Fergusson)

The healthful man and woman can give counsel to the sick. [Cf. B]

If the counsel be good, it should not matter overly who gave it. [Cf. A]

Women's counsel can be cold. [Cf. B]

He was slain that had warning and didn't take it. [Cf. B]

Good counsel shouldn't come too late. [Cf. B]◊

A good land is never void of counsellors. [Cf. B]

Three may keep counsel if two be away. [A]

Advice can be least heeded when most needed. [Cf. A]

The counsel you would have another keep, first keep it yourself. [B]

LoRegular, much similar counsel may reach more or less fixed prices - it must be good to know that

Good and solid counsel can have no fixed price. [Cf. B]

Counsel is no comment. (9)

Some forms of advice are not so popular things to give. [Cf. A]


  1. Advice should precede the act, and be examined, so that cheap advice is not given any weight.
  2. Try and be sensible about it, and consier that "He was slain that had warning and didn't take it," and "Advice can be least heeded when most needed." For example, it is said that those who need advice the most, may be the least likely to take it. Take that into account!
  3. Accordingly, some great counsels are hardly much popular. Think of that.
IN NUCE Hit advice should precede the sensible act when most needed - even though it may be far from popular among jerks and fools. Anyway, give it.




LoMuch cognitive development is had from medium ambitions that get welcomed in the tedium

By continually striving for the best, one may waste good opportunities. (R. Fergusson) [B]

Small people try to belittle your ambitions, but the really great ones should make you feel that you, too, can become great. (A sentence)

Ambition makes people scorn rustic living.

If you can't be jolly, your ambition is at fault.

Hasty climbers have sudden falls. [B]

Being ambitious is at times hunting for spectacles.

Great and smart ambitions can make great men. [Cf. A]

Be content to make a living and do not heed all the goadings of ambitions. [Cf. A]

Ride the easy enough ambition in your evening skies. [A]

Better ride on a mule that carries us than a horse that throws us. [Cf. B]

Man's ambition knows no bars; with vision he carves his way through hardships to the stars. [A]

There's always room at the top. [B]

The ambitious bullfrog puffed and puffed until he burst. [A]

An ambitious person often becomes rudely self-important. [Cf. A]◊

Nothing seek, nothing find. [B]

Poor by condition, rich by ambition. (Chinese)

The ambitious person can be quite dangerous in unprecedented ways. [A]

Awkward ambition quickly destroys the one who has it. [Cf. A]

High places have certain precipices. [Cf. B]

Ambition is the last infirmity of noble ones. [Cf. A]

LoKeep abreast and often find your sensible, far-sighted ambition ridiculed

Ambition is a poor excuse for not having sense enough to be lazy. (M. McCarthy)

Look to a gown of gold and harvest whines - unless you are bold and handy.◊

Ridiculous ambition makes people work all too long and hard. [Cf. B]

Seek that which may be found. [B]

LoWading in a great river, it doesn't help to long for Rome and feel much puffed up

It doesn't help to get puffed up.

First in the village rather than second at Rome. [Cf. B] MM

Wading in a great river, take heed lest you be drowned. [Cf. B]


  1. The ambitious seek something not granted them from the start.
  2. Some work too long and hard and wear themselves out like fools, spurred by inner lacks of a sort.
  3. Instead of getting puffed up by fulfilled ambitions, help others less blessed than yourself if you are up to it, and consider the many benefits of decentralised living nowadays.
IN NUCE Many of the ambitious seek things they work themselves out of health for, and get puffed up from several illnesses too, some of them.




LoBeware of making cruel men angry, for they can maim and kill without any right

MEN often make up in wrath what they want in reason. (William R. Alger)

Anger frequently ends in cruelty. (Indian)

Anger and folly walk cheek by jowl; repentance treads on both their heads. [A]

A hungry man may not rise to be an angry man if he starves. [Cf. B]

I was angry with my friend: I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow. (Poem by William Blake)

When a man is wrong and won't admit it, he always gets angry. (Haliburton)

Anger has no eyes. (Indian)

Angry men are hardened, many times in the right.

Anger well restrained can usher in much wisdom later. [Cf. B]

Beware of him who is slow to anger; he is angry for something and will not be pleased for nothing. [A]

At times he is a fool who cannot be angry but a wise man who will not. [A]

A soft answer could turn away wrath but seldom hostility itself. (Cf. Proverbs 15:1)

Anger thwarts many a healthy counsel. [Cf. B]

Anger is never without reason, but perhaps an old one - then it may be unjust. [Cf. A]

Add much sound sleep to your present anger. [Cf. A]

As fire can be kindled by bellows, so can anger by words. [B]

Think of the consequences the moment anger rises.(Cf. Confucius)

Candid anger edges valour. [Cf. A]

Delay is the antidote of anger. [B]

He that is angry is seldom at ease. [B]

He that is angry without a cause, may be pleased without amends. [B]

If you're angry count to ten. [A]

Much anger can kill the foolish man. (Cf. Job 5:2)

Ridiculous anger should punish itself. [Cf. B]

There is rudeness in anger.

To be angry is to punish yourself for another's sins. [A]

Two things a man should strive not to get angry at; what he can help, and what he cannot help. [Cf. B]

When a man grows angry, his reason rides out. [B]

When wrath speaks, wisdom veils her face. [B]

Anybody can become angry - that is easy; but to be angry with the right person for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not easy. (Cf. Aristotle) ◊

Anger often consumes what goodness husbands first had. (Cf. Icelandic)

He who slowly gets angry keeps his anger longer. [B]

Much visible anger can make the poor man scorned. [Cf. B]

Anger is a short madness. [B]

Patience provoked turns to fury. [B]

Anger outbursts often profit no one in the game. [Cf. A]

It often happens that anger is a prompt and fair warning.

Try not to let not the sun go down on your anger. (Cf. Ephesians 4:26)

Quick anger suggests someone is a terrible enemy.

The angry beggar gets a stone instead of bread. [Cf. A]

LoAvert much anger and more guests might come your way

Misfits get plenty of anger their way.

That a guest may anger another guest, can breed silly strife for long times to come. (Cf. Havamal, verse 32: It speaks on top of barbaric conditions)

Look not back in anger and forward just in fear; also look around in jolly good awareness so as to thrive. ◊

Avert anger and drop much sin. [Cf. A]

LoThwarted frivolity goes hand in hand with sound anger that may herald much debased self-esteem later. Then wit mars

HORRIBLE anger and valour can go hand in hand.

Thwarted anger can breed sulks.

From what you do in hate and anger you may not live to rise again. MM


  1. Anger is a side to humans that needs to be dealt with for the sake of harmony too. Anger outbursts often profit no one in the game.
  2. Deal with anger as you may. Try not to give way to it, to save yourself from possible tragedies that otherwise might start rolling.
  3. Merely thwarted anger can breed neurosis-ridden sulks.
IN NUCE Seek to deal with anger tactfully, so as to hinder troubles, skirmishes, and neuroses. Perhaps it works.




LoOne should try to minimise anticipation till the ship is about to come in somehow

Count nothing for sure till you see it taking place.

In old age even a cat can expect death. [Cf. A]

Make not your sauce before you have caught the fish. [B]

Don't eat the calf in the cow's belly. [B]

He who expects nothing, won't be disappointed. (Cf. Alexander Pope)

Make sound and very good preparations in time, also for seasonal shifts and occasional hurricanes.

Look for the best, and expect the worst in the right way, so that it may not happen. [Cf. A]

There is sound anticipation and unsound anticipation. It makes a difference to know which is what.

We love to expect, and when expectation is either disappointed or gratified, we want to be again expecting. (Samuel Johnson)

There's many a slip between the cup and the lip. [Cf. B]

What we anticipate seldom occurs, what we least expected generally happens. (Disraeli)

Expect nothing and you won't be severely disappointed.◊

One should restrain rejoices at getting out of a tricky situation till one is sure there are no further problems waiting.

Gut no fish till you get them. [B]

LoThe witless cat must expect a lot from the blacksmith who owns him

Only the witless one expects the blacksmith to wear a white silk apron. [A]

He who plays with a cat must expect to be scratched.◊

LoHold on and sell the skin at last, after the death of another

Long expected folly comes at last.

Fear of death seems worse than death itself. [Cf. B]

Don't sell the skin till you've caught the bear. [B] (7)


  1. Expect nothing and you won't be so often disappointed in some cases, where the castles in the air are plenty.
  2. But also adjust to "He who plays with a cat must expect to be scratched". Realism is good.
  3. Don't antecipate and expect a lot based on surface looks alone, but for what good a thing might do, if given a fair chance to flower and set fruit.
IN NUCE Hope and believe very little, and much could go differently, and you may get fruits too.



Healthy Teens

LoThe glad and frivolous teenager mind needs its own peculiar satisfactions to stay alive and healthy

Youthfulness isn't great merely because it is common.

Whenever you are sincerely pleased in youth you must be nourished (cf. Ralph Waldo Emerson).

In diving to the bottom of teenage arts, many bring up major pearls.

There will be youthful folks as long as there are sisters and strong boys.

Successful youth is no retreat from living, nor a period of unsound repression of natural instincts.

Youthless people can have very few virtues (cf. similar expression by Abraham Lincoln on vices).

Savoury youthfulness could be a secret cure of satiety.

We should beware of rashness if we go to bed withouy being married - this is against being outsmarted.

Nice puberty makes us poetry-bent.

The god of youth may be said to be one-handed, but also one of laughter.

It often seems that a decent half-cure for a teenager is laughter. At least it's not maiming drugs.

Teenage is for overcoming such as unsound awe and unsound, sleepless vigilance.

Many a man's youngster sides have at first been noted as manhood running a little wild.

The glad and frivolous teenage mind is naturally attuned to many a fine cream soup.

Teenage as an impulse-giver has without doubt been of far more benefit to changing civilisation than stupendous modesty.

Voluntary consideration of being young is also a part of being young.

Brittle folks seldom and never speak up for those youthful likings that bring vital sex partners.

It could be our own degenerate or insolent teens that make the youthfulness of others more or less unbearable.

All teenage time can hardly be homespun, and may suffer great pangs if attempts to regulate it maim.

Teenagers's lustful frivolity could be the rich man's essential contribution to some sort of democracy.

The average man does not get into his teens out of an idea, and just because he thinks it is true. (Similar expression by H. L. Mencken on something very different) ◊

To make teenage pleasant is the art - maybe much exasperating, but still incredibly handy.

Teenage is rarely marked by much foresight, but slender limbs make up for a lot here as elsewhere.

By offending many healthy teenage outlets we become humorless; by repressing them we become dracula-like, or reformatory free from the sensual perfume of life; maybe poisonous to be with.

Some of our most delightful pleasures start off at teenage.

Muscle-growing teens come nearer to vital truths than much else in history (cf. Plato on poetry).

You will not find a teenager fully satisfying anywhere unless you bring some youthfulness with you (cf. Joseph Joubert on poetry).

One may or may not find a sterner moralist than a fatherless teenage girl.

LoTeenage is often misled and bonded to many ensnaring and untrue ideas

Wheras power leads man toward arrogance, teenage reminds him of many gross and minor limitations. But teenage also reminds him of the richness and diversity of the opposite sex, no matter how. Yes, the teens and teenagers can cleanse a lot (cf. similar concerns by John F. Kennedy on poetry).

Teenage is the grand arbiter of keen poetic awareness, and can bring about healthy unions of body and mind.

Teenage is linked to an art of living that may be fit for being true and make it with meagre arrogance too.

With Edgar Allan Poe teenage was probably not a purpose, yet it might have built lots of passions (cf. Edgar Allan Poe on poetry). Teens are boned with ideas, all held together by a delicate, tough ado (cf. Paul Engle on poetry) ◊

Winning some measure of intimacy is possibly the most important thing in one's teens, but it should be relevant.

Puberty is at times like garlic in the salad bowl of discreet taste (cf. mention on vulgarity by Cyril Connolly).

Think with the wise, but talk with teenagers all the same (cf. Greek proverb).

You won't find it in the Bible, but see if it does not fit: "Fit puberty is mine, says the Lord" - and created humans in his likeness - image.

LoWho wants to follow suit, must nor shrink from a healthy teenage

Crass puberty can be understood to be civilisation's "vice", something that makes man ashamed of himself and his next of kin, and pretend to be somebody else.

Maybe secret rascals wish to be saved from their teenage strains. ✪

You must stand strong to stand naked, and the teens do not have to be so very mea when there are many healthy outlets.

Virtue would not stand out as it does, if one's teenage did not keep it company.

Teenage years and viligance go hand in hand. Alarm might be an alternative.


  1. Likable youths and ample sex could need to go well together, ideally, but neither may be known for judiciousness and ample foresight.
  2. One's teens and its ways of living may remind of garlic - wept over at close range, perhaps, but it does good too, as every chef should know.
  3. Youth finds and keeps company also, and willingly so.
IN NUCE Solid thriving throughout life's phases includes making the best out of one's puberty and teenage. Some find good company.

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(B) Fergusson, Rosalind. The Penguin Dictionary of Proverbs. Harmondsworth: Penguin, 1983.

(A) Mieder, Wolfgang (main ed.), Stewart A. Kingsbury, and Kelsie E. Harder: A Dictionary of American Proverbs. (Paperback) New York: Oxford University Press, 1996.

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