Buddhism for Householders: Buddha Quotations
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Do not fall away from happiness. [Buddha's wisdom]
What follows is based on Digha Nikaya 31: Sigalovada Sutta (The Discourse to Sigala "A Layperson's Guidelines". Below are extracts and slight modulations.
ON ONE occasion the Exalted One [Buddha] was dwelling in the Bamboo Grove, the Squirrels' Sanctuary, near Rajagaha. There he set down guidelines for householders. A few of them have been slightly adjusted here.
OverviewInasmuch the good disciple
he is favoured in this world and in the world beyond: After death he enters a happy heavenly realm. [Mod Buddha]
 kamma-kilesa, lit., 'actions of defilement.'
The destruction of life, householder, is a vice and so are stealing, sexual misconduct, and lying. [Buddha]
Killing, stealing, lying and adultery, these four evils the wise never praise. [Buddha]
The fit disciple is not led by desire, anger, ignorance, and fear. He commits no evil. [Buddha]
Whoever through desire, hate or fear, or ignorance should transgress the Dhamma, all his glory fades away. Whoever through desire, hate or fear, or ignorance never transgresses the Dhamma, all his glory ever increases. [Buddha]
Channels of Misery to Come
3. What are the six channels for dissipating wealth which a follower does not pursue?
(a) There are these six evil consequences in indulging in intoxicants which cause infatuation and heedlessness:
(b) There are these six evil consequences in sauntering in streets at unseemly hours:
 Crimes committed by others.
(c) There are these six evil consequences in frequenting theatrical shows: He is ever thinking:
 A form of amusement.
(d) There are these six evil consequences in indulging in gambling:
(e) There are these six evil consequences in associating with evil companions, namely: any gambler, any libertine, any drunkard, any swindler, any cheat, any rowdy is his friend and companion.
(f) There are these six evil consequences in being addicted to idleness: He does no work, saying:
Living in this way, he leaves many duties undone, new wealth he does not get, and wealth he has acquired dwindles away. [Buddha]
One is a bottle friend; one says, 'friend, friend' only to one's face; one is a friend and an associate only when it is advantageous. [Buddha]
Sleeping till sunrise, adultery, irascibility, malevolence, evil companions, avarice -- these six causes ruin a man. [Buddha]
The man who has evil comrades and friends is given to evil ways, to ruin does he fall in both worlds this one and the next. [Buddha]
Dice, women, liquor, dancing, singing, sleeping by day, sauntering at unseemly hours, evil companions, avarice all these causes ruin a man. [Buddha]
Who plays with dice and drinks intoxicants, goes to women who are dear unto others as their own lives, associates with the mean and not with elders he declines just as the moon during the waning half. [Buddha]
Who . . . frequents the bars, sinks in debt as a stone in water, swiftly brings disrepute to his family. [With Buddha]
Who by habit sleeps by day, and keeps late hours, is ever intoxicated, and is licentious, is not fit to lead a household life. [Buddha]
Who says it is too hot, too cold, too late, and leaves things undone, the opportunities for good go past such men. [Buddha]
But he who does not regard cold or heat any more than a blade of grass and who does his duties manfully, does not fall away from happiness. [Buddha]
Bad Friends and Foes after Some Time
These four should be understood as foes in the guise of friends:
(1) In four ways should one who appropriates be understood as a foe in the guise of a friend:
(2) In four ways should one who renders lip-service be understood as a foe in the guise of a friend:
(3) In four ways should one who flatters be understood as a foe in the guise of a friend:
(4) In four ways should one who brings ruin be understood as a foe in the guise of a friend:
The friend who appropriates,
These four should be understood as warm-hearted friends:
1) In four ways should a helpmate be understood as a warm-hearted friend:
(2) In four ways should one who is the same in happiness and sorrow be understood as a warm-hearted friend:
(3) In four ways should one who gives good counsel be understood as a warm-hearted friend:
(4) In four ways should one who sympathises be understood as a warm-hearted friend:
The friend who is a helpmate,
The wise and virtuous shine like a blazing fire. [Buddha]
He who acquires his wealth in harmless ways
 Dhammapada v. 49: "As a bee, without harming the flower, its colour or scent, flies away, collecting only the honey . . ."
With wealth acquired this way,
One portion he uses for his wants, 
 This portion includes what is spent on good works: gifts to the wise and contemplatives, charity, etc.
Basics for Six Fields of Life
Children and Parents
In five ways . . . a child should minister to his parents . . .:
In five ways the parents thus ministered to . . . by their children, show their compassion:
In these five ways do children minister to their parents . . . and the parents show their compassion to their children. Thus is [very much of personal life] covered by them and made safe and secure. [Buddha]
Pupils and Teachers
In five ways a pupil should minister to a teacher . . .:
In five ways do teachers thus ministered to . . . by their pupils, show their compassion:
The teachers thus ministered to . . . by their pupils, show their compassion towards them in these five ways. Thus is [facets of group living] covered by them and made safe and secure. [Buddha]
Husband and Wife
In five ways should a wife . . . be ministered to by a husband:
The wife thus ministered to . . . by her husband shows her compassion to her husband in five ways:
 lit., 'the folk around' (parijana).
In these five ways does the wife show her compassion to her husband who ministers to her . . . Thus is the [partner area] covered by him and made safe[r] and [far more] secure. [Buddha]
On Friendly Terms with Relatives, on and up
In five ways should a clansman minister to his friends and associates in the [area of esteem]:
The friends and associates thus ministered to . . . by a clansman show compassion to him in five ways:
The friends and associates thus ministered to . . . by a clansman show their compassion towards him in these five ways. Thus is the [esteem area] covered by him and made safe[r] and [far more] secure. [Buddha]
Serving and Administering
In five ways should a master minister to his servants and employees as the [bottom area]:
The servants and employees thus ministered to as the [deep area] Nadir by their master show their compassion to him in five ways:
The servants and employees thus ministered to . . . show their compassion towards him in these five ways. Thus is the [bottom field of life] covered by him and made safe and secure. [Buddha]
Recluses and Intellectuals and . . .
In five ways should a householder minister to ascetics and brahmans as the [top area]:
The ascetics and brahmans thus ministered to . . . by a householder show their compassion towards him in six ways:
In these six ways do ascetics and brahmans show their compassion towards a householder who ministers to them as [of the top area]. Thus is the [top area] covered by him and made safe[r] and [better and perhaps more] secure. [These are evil times]
The four main directions of the compass and up and down constitute a framework and relate to a fundamental symbolism: As the new day beings in the East, so life begins with parents' care; teacher's fees are associated with the South; domestic cares follow when the youth becomes man, as the West [representing partners, friends etc.] holds the later daylight; North is 'beyond' (uttara), so by help of friends and so on he can get beyond troubles." (cf. Rhys Davids). The symbolism is not credited too much in the West, and is, after all, secondary; the good points are as given by Buddha anyway.. . .
Favorable Qualities for Householders
Who is wise and virtuous,
Who is energetic and not indolent,
Who is hospitable, and friendly,
Generosity, sweet speech,
These four winning ways make the world go round.
The young householder Sigala said: "Excellent! It is as if a man were to:
The old doctrine has been explained.
Narada Thera, tr. "Sigalovada Sutta: The Discourse to Sigala.
The Layperson's Code of Discipline" (Digha Nikaya, No. 31). In Everyman's Ethics: Four Discourses by the Buddha (The Wheel Publication No. 14). Kandy, Sri Lanka: Buddhist Publication Society, 1985. On-line adaptation: Access to Insight edition 1996.
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