Not all welcomes are delightful and worth working for. Some women it fit to seek money that way, and some men also. Cunning, conniving welcomes may well be traps of a sort. All in all, there are many adjectives that can be put in front of 'welcomes' . . . A human should at least try to know beforehand what sound welcomes are, and what other welcomes may lead into or down to. Better be forewarned than passive in this.
It matters to get properly enabled too. Then we may get work, and means from it, and then welcomed. The rich may be welcomed far and wide. That pertains to tourists too. Poor vagabond tourists may have a hard time while the rich, well-paying tourists is getting service and squeezed moneywise.
Anyway, to find favour and reap sweet welcomes of a kind, or many kinds, try to make yourself worthy of them.
It also matters to know which side you are on, which side your heart supports. Is it the poor ones who cannot afford luxury travels year in and year out, or all with means, the 'have's", no matter how ill-gotten or feebly-founded their means are? Check who you are siding with in the big picture. Is it Native Indians or all who drove them away from their territories and homes? Is it environmentalists or Earth-abusing money-caring ones or others "somewhere in the middle"?
Learning to process data helps, and good skills help. Improved conditions allow for having much leisure and fun. Fun comes slowly out of the darkness, maybe in a cosy group and family.
We should feel free to go for savoury schooling and calm, proper training if our initial welcomes hardly suffice. There may be no easier way.
Bland welcomes tend to be fit ones, but bland welcomes could be unwelcome welcomes: it depends on what they lead into. Even welcomes that are sweet initially, can lead into trouble. About half of the marriages in Denmark and Sweden end in divorce, for example. It is not an easy path. And there are even worse outcomes of initial attractions, such as persistent, obsessive stalking and what might come out of it (Cupach and Spitzberg 2008).
You should take care of yourself in a relationship too. Fit welcomes could also help yourself. A marriage rests to a large extent on compatibilities, and that is an often overlooked, old stand.
Go for savoury welcomes
Do not ignore the art of studying without thoughts - that is, of observing nicely. "Nature first," may help too.
Sanity-helping standards of excellence can be hard to find. And decent schooling may assist self-initiated interests onwards and upwards.
Some folks around that seem to think that there is nothing as fit as being one of a gang - being conform. But bad, indecent conformity has been found to stultify. It can be quite a problem to those with capacity to get further.
One may ken people by how they look, by what appearance they find convenient for themselves, and not only their body exteriors.
Try to make progress in life where it may matters the most. As for cool, relaxed garden living - the good side to being a villa owner - Adam and Eve were to protect and defend their garden of living. Yes, it may be vitally important to master the art of bulwarking one's habitat well.
Sorting essentials can be good help in the art of living, at least as a student
In its own way, Rogerian councelling is very much attuned to the "organismic feel", as Carl Rogers himself calls it.
Also take the time to pay heed to your inner drives and secret longings, plans and hunches, for things to work out better.
Good teachings work well if they are adhered to -
With training you may eventually learn how to "peel" sentences so as to arrive at core ideas, also called key points, even cream teachings. The proof of the pudding is in the eating; good teachings for you help you where you are, provided you are not too weak to follow them through, or that the conditions are not wholly unsuitable for nice training. The baby needs not only mother's milk, but also congenial, proper conditions to prosper.
Although all welcomes are not sweet you may still make the best of welcomes. Go on from sorting possible and fit to the essential. On top of that, try to compute ever so often, and you may get progress in life as you go ahead in such a way.
There is a long row of books with titles beginning with "Welcome to . . ." - Fill in a country or region, like Cote d'Azur, and see who they want to welcome most of all: Is it tourists and others with money, or a stream of refugees with or without families? In the first case they welcome money, in the others they are in for spending some. There is a difference there . . . Some people overstay their welcome, and some overcrowd it. There is a difference there too. Also consider what you are welcomed into.
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