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How to Maintain Yourself and Be Yourself

See the trends and adjust to your benefit.

Maximise what is good and rewarding. Learn to live without causing unnecessary friction, and meditate to get happy and more. In time you can bear good fruit.

Vincent van Gogh. Modified detail from Ox cart with Red and White Ox
Are oxen other than themselves?

Are there any good alternatives to remain genuine and sincere throughout life? Such things probably need to be inspected. To develop, what is needed is being yourself throughout. Not everybody seems able to do that, putting on masks, being caught by roles, and sticking to group customs like insane. That easily makes life emptier and hollower than suspected at first.

A true winner is genuine as himself or herself and knows how to deal with others too. Much comes with all right enough practice. Rewarding training helps too. Try to sort out what you are really interested in as your life changes through various phases if it matters. To some it does. [Erikson's purported life stages] - [Allport's proprium]

Filter for a good and rewarding living

Meditation helps many, and good upbringing and education and a profession too.

On the track to getting genuine as the one you are and in the process of becoming, take time to relax and be the one you are. Effects of sound ◦Transcendental Meditation is ◦downright rewarding to many.

Also go for being amply supplied, having adequate lighting, enough food stored for as long as is convenient, annd that your life run over-all smoothly. With more time at your disposal through managing the main sides to living like that, you may well get better spare time and use it to meditate or do other parts of maintaining yourself and Self.

Suave manners save frictions and may be learnt. Bland manners make life smoother and easier so that it wears less on your nerves and system.

Having fit outfit is often needed in our times; not all depends on networking. Hence, get the gear or outfit that serves you too well, and consider what helps you make the best out of life.

Ease may be above simplicity

Maintain your fare by applying some measure of "convenient, shapely, handy, practical, and with ease" above mere "simple". It means managing better, and easing life that way. Then things may flow more smoothly than by "simple" alone. Simplicity might be overrated. What matters is how well you can handle or deal with the various parts of your life as you grow up and get much older. Allow for adequate changes in such a light.

Included in a good fare is to cut down on silliness. Consumerist life depends a lot on buying and having things and stuff, and buying other things that are useful - and may not be ideal or good enough if the time saved is not put to rewarding use too.

If you fail to realise that much in our society undermines the worth of humans, your individuality and its development may suffer a lot because of bad conformity, which may also be enforced by laws and much else. Bluntly: people are treated more and more like herds of cattle, cattle are treated like "plants" to yield flesh and other things for business and profit, and plants are treated by chemicals and cut short in many cases, for the sake of money. "For money, for profit" accumulated in the hands of the few is a general trend. The rich get richer and own all too much. There is statistics on it. Envying, admiring and copying them is a bad way to go. We can study Abraham Maslow's pyramid of needs to see in what walks of life and on what levels we might improve your life and wellbeing too, if we are not made completely helpless.

Abraham Maslow's Pyramid of Needs +

Figure. Abraham Maslow's postulated pyramid of layered (hierarchic) needs with some "room on the top" added here - that is, room for developments.

One has to be genuine to be oneself and not offend the Self. Faking all along won't do for Jungian individuation, or Maslowian self-actualising (1987).

Split apart

With common industrialisation comes exploitation of the large family. The large family in a rural setting gives way to a family where the elder and other relatives "have gone out", so to speak. It happens on a large scale. It is a trend that speaks dehumanisation along with urbanisation, machine-dependency and government control by surveillance of many sorts, including the use of big data.

Also, the core family in our times is attacked by stress and hurdles as it seeks to adapt, and is gsplit in many ways even without divorces, because both parents work outside that core unit, and that is where most Scandinavians are at present.

Behind this splitting apart are some actors that use common people's glide downwards for profit.

People who are used, tend to become split up one way or other: the need to communicate, feel secure and get confirmations of themselves, is made use of by other actors. Devices are inserted as go-betweens among humans, and the result is a certain loss loss of a fuller communication with body language, grimaces, hugs and so on are missing. A loss of human frivolity results from main adaptations.

Much that is hailed as progress sucks resources, including human resources, takes time, and human encounters suffer. There is much isolation and comparatively little freedom for swerving in an urban environment of today.

Abuse and what it leads into

As long as the overarching lines of abuses goes on and are called progress, development, there is no hope for humanity. But you may seek to make your own dishes - it is an aspect of being a bit self-sufficient. There is a lot you can do, but unless you see the dominant trends of what is going on in the large mainstream society you could become another unwitting victim and then perpetrator of unwelcome glides down from more fulfilling living.

Trends are generalised averages. The situation is not equally bad for everyone. Maybe global warming and desertation and so on will make people more equal at last, but the chances are that the rich will guard themselves. It happens already: "Rich countries, walled countries. Rich neighbourhoods, walled neighbourhoods. Rich people, bodyguards," and so on.

To get rich while keeping one's humanity is seldom much bad. Yet, instead of just aspiring to get among the wealthy few, there are alternatives. In part it can be done by going to the core of situations. Study helps toward it, and fair inspection can help too.

Much also depends on what we make out opportunities in our way through life, and of facts of the 'soil' or arena we are in, so to speak.

Gently breaking with being beaten in life

Greed and conformity may be shown to be enemies of many. The conform may appear to be cattle, but maybe they have decided on it, albeit unconsciously. We can help ourselves by "Don't associate with outright fools." It is a Buddhist counsel Further, "a wise person is characterised by his activities."

Buddha summaries the good life through his key teachings, including the Middle Way of human progress; and being with like-minded and beneficial others. He also advocates skilfulness in living and meditation. Skilfulness is a high virtue also, and being resourceful is good too.

◦Transcendental Meditation helps many.

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