Maximise what is good and rewarding. Learn to live without causing unnecessary friction, and meditate to get happy and more. In time you can bear good fruit, that is, bring benefits to others.
To remain genuine and sincere throughout life is not always easy for an infiltrated human being, but what are the alternatives? What do some of them lead into? Such things probably need to be inspected.
A true winner is genuine as himself or herself and knows how to deal with others too. Much comes with practice, with good enough practice. Training helps too. There are things to accept about yourself, and it includes your libido. Try to sort out who you really are, and what you are in the process of turning into - what you are in the middle of becoming - and also what you should strive to go for.
Filter for a good and rewarding living
We can seek to filter our great and ongoing drives so as to increase beneficial ones and beneficial outcomes, while at the same time "starve out" what does not serve us full well, or our long-time goals, if any. Thus: Learn how to maximise good sides to yourself and lessen detriments to your ability. Maybe you need help. Meditation helps, and good upbringing and education and a profession too.
You should wonder or ponder how to to it. First, to get genuine as the one you are, take time to relax and be the one you are. Meditation is for that. Effects of sound ◦Transcendental Meditation show it is a ◦fine meditation method. It may be used for retaining yourself too, in the middle of networks, infiltrations and humdrum living where fame is overrated. You need to be yourself adequately. Much allows for training. We may slowly learn to master better ways of speaking and expressing ourselves, for example. We may learn to relax adequately at work, by some yoga counsels on OK breathing and other means, including those of relaxing and moving body parts a bit from time to time, for example. You may see to it that you are amply supplied, have adequate lighting, enough food stored for as long as is convenient, and that the main outlets of your life run smoothly. To the degree you learn to master things like these, you get more time at your disposal. You may thus take time to meditate or do other parts of maintaining yourself - and your Self -
Good manners save frictions among humans, and may be learnt too. Good manners make life smoother and easier, so that it wears less on your nerves and system.
Having fit outfit is often needed in our times. Very much depends on outfit, tools, instruments, in our society; not all depends on networking. Hence, get the gear or outfit that serves you too, and learn to use and maintain it deftly. These things may help your life by easing it.
Ease may be above simplicity
There comes a question: Should I simplify life to find good time, or what? A set of priorities helps. Good ones say, "To maintain your fare, apply "convenient, handy, practical, and with ease" above mere "simple". Then things may go more smoothly and you can accomplish better than by "simple" alone. Simplicity is overrated in some circles. Stay as handy and practical as you can, then, and you get better conditions. Included in a good fare is to cut down on silliness. There are many forms and modes, and a mere consumerist life where too much depends on buying and having things and stuff, is not a perfect ideal, to give a hint.
You should ask yourself at the back of your head from time to time: "Is there something better than that?" If your priorities are OK, you may see thereby. For example, if you adhere to: "As a living being, it is better to side with good and decent life and as high life quality and possible than to profit short-sightedly by making use of others, thereby reducing their worth or esteem." If you live up to something like that, you may see that much in our society undermines the worth of humans. Individuality may suffer for the sake of conformity, which is enforced by laws and much else. Bluntly: people are treated more and more like herds of cattle, cattle are treated like "things" to yield flesh and other things for business and profit, and plants are treated by chemicals and cut short in many cases, for the sake of money. That is a general trend.
To revert to a rather common human fare in our times: Along with the industrialisation of the West comes exploitation of the large family. You may see that the large family in a not very alienated environment gradually gave way to a family where the elder and other relatives "went out", so to speak. And the core family in our times is attacked by stress and hurdles, and is getting split in many ways even without divorces, because both parents work outside that core unit, and that is where most Scandinavians are at this time.
Behind this splitting apart are some actors that use the glide for profit. When the telly appeared, people reduced the time for visiting others of their families on Sundays and the life, and learnt to spend several hours a day in front of a screen. The furniture of the living rooms was accommodated to it far and wide - chairs were now pointing in one direction mainly: the TV.
Because people who are used tend to become split up one way or other, the need to communicate, feel secure and get confirmations of themselves, is made use of by other actors. Devices are inserted between humans, and the result is loss of direct personal contacts - loss of a fuller communication with body language, grimaces, hugs and so on are missing. Beer drinking is no solution.
Much that is hailed as progress takes resources, takes time, and human encounters suffer. As a result there is much isolation in the cities of today.
Abuse and what it leads into
As long as these overarching lines of abusing others is called progress, development, there is not much hope. But see what you can do. You may seek to make your own dishes - a side to being a bit self-sufficient. There is a lot you can do, but unless you see through what is taking place in the large mainstream society - by adequate priorities or outlooks - you may be a victim and perpetrator of unwelcome glides down from happier life.
Guard against that. In part it can be done by going to the core. Study helps toward it, and other things help too.
Much also depends on what we make out opportunities in our way through life, and of facts of the 'soil' or arena we are in, so to speak.
Gently breaking with being beaten in life
If you have associated with others who vacillate about how to live, you may be with them if you are strong. But if those others show that they turn to the base sides of our times - to getting and having by greed and conformity - you may be unable to help them, for by their living they show which values they adhere to, and they have made their choices. Then help yourself by gently breaking those connections. "Don't associate with fools," sums up parts of Gautama Buddha's counsel, and "a wise person is characterised by his activities," sums up another side to this deep-going problem. The general advice is to associate with better people: among them there may be some who influence your better, yet little-developed sides.
Buddha summaries the good life by adhering to meditation for self-help; to his key teachings, the Middle Way of gentle progress; and being with like-minded and beneficial others. He also advocates skilfulness in living and meditation. It is a high virtue too, and so is resourcefulness at bottom. His all-round counsel helps against being beaten in life.
And TM can help even better.
Much depends on what you invest time in, how skilful you get - in part by being trained - and your frequent company. And most of all, much depends on how first-class you try to be, after you have become awake to sides of living and what they go along with and do to you - slowly and by degrees also.
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