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Medical research findings indicate that some of Yogananda's very restrictive ideas against morally OK sex are of little worth: "Of little worth, of little help." Depending in part on how violent a possible suppression or repression of natural impulses might be, various kinks or neuroses may form on top of more or less curbed and strangled id-based development over time. There is a danger there, many psychoanalysts think. (Cf. Billig 2004; Gossop 1981) The gathered Yogananda-sayings are arranged here according to a scheme. Headings are added, a comment, and a list of sex benefits according to medical findings. References to books and articles are at the end. Paramahansa Yogananda on Sex: Quotations
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Decent sex belongs to the private sphere of life, and one's private life is endangered by rules, regulations, surveillance, harmful living conditions, and so on. As for gurus, some are wise and kind, and others plot.
A well protected private sphere is endangered by (1) bossy "doctrination" as blurred abstention norms that may not work well at all, and (2) by bosses who invade the lives of followers to have "sex slaves" and similar, with little fear of repercussions. The Scylla and Charybdis call for good navigation ability at the very least, and maybe a little luck too.
Some kriya yoga gurus are not as outré and repressive as Yogananda (1893-1952). In a kriya yoga tradition that comes via Swami Sivananda, for example, kriya is taught freely, in books. [1993; 2001]. Swami Satyananda Saraswati, a disciple of Sivananda, says for example,
Yoga can improve or rectify sexual relationships ... Inadequate sexual relations are often the cause of much unhappiness and frustration ... Yoga practices ... increase one's ability to enjoy sexual union. [Satyananda 1981:2]
Satyananda, further, "We are only interested in helping you to gain maximum happiness and fulfilment in life. [Satyananda 1981:3]"
It sounds good, but be on your guard anyhow so as not to be beaten. [Some dangers of close encounters]
Paying heed to silver-tongued, stiff barking and prattle against regular sex and against fun can lead into a counterproductive drift in life. Such a take is what the cauldron picture signals. In other words, it says "BEWARE!"
Yogananda has decreed many sorts of regulations for members of his kriya church. One wife of an SRF devotee blurted out about Yogananda in my presence, "He ruined my marriage!" She also said she hated him.
Forewarned is forearmed. Medical expertise today may say "Good Heavens!" to some of the guru's barker views, and blood donors too. They may lose more blood than some who have lovely sex thousands of times. I guess Yogananda did not think of that. And by the way, if you drink half a glass of milk, it helps the building of blood cells very well - to compensate for fluids spent on having sex or giving blood.
The repeated stance of the monk Yogananda was that money, sex, and drinking were bad and of Satan, but he also decreed that it was God who had created the sex temptation. Seek consistency, seek elsewhere.
There are four key ideals for Hindus. They are dharma, righteousness, artha, wealth, kama, delight, and moksha, great freedom. Artha is wealth, prosperity, and kama is sensual pleasure, lust, and other pleasures. It behoves humans to prosper and delight as long as universal righteousness (dharma) is not violated. Such is the firmly established stance in Hinduism. Compare what Buddha says about true friends.
What is right for humans as to having sex? Is it having it once a year for the purpose of having children only? Also for those with a ravenous sexual appetite? And for all who seek sex for pleasure? Sex may serve several functions beyond reproduction that may not be favoured in cults that dogmatise for total abstinence against "sexual slavery". The risk is that "dogmatist slavery" rises and takes its toll.
Sex can be good for many equipped with sexual organs. It may boost our immune system and help maintain a healthy weight and ease depression too. How else can sex add to our life and enhance our physical and psychological health? Each of the following health benefits of healthy loving in a relationship (sex) is backed by some measure of scientific scrutiny.
Sex in a monogamous relationship has been shown in numerous studies to increase one's ability to be intimate with others, specifically one's special other, thus improving overall mental well being. And studies have shown just the opposite for those with many and multiple partners. [2]
Sex may improve the blood flow, thereby perhaps alleviating headaches.
A British study of 1,000 men found those who had at least two orgasms a week for some reason or other had half the death rate of their countrymen who indulge less than once a month. Deductions from this finding should not be over-simplified, though: Could sex increase vitality, or is better vitality leading to more sex? It could work both ways, and what is reason and what is cause has not been sorted out, to my knowing.
Anyway, the weight of the summarised evidence above may help you think twice about submitting to a guru doctrine that is not exactly embraced by all kinds of sex experts today.
Is there anything good to say about the monk Yogananda's main views on sex? If you find that having sex about once or twice a year, his main views could suit you. We are not all alike.
Also, Yogananda was rather against getting married also, not just against having a good sex life. There is much social research about stressors among Americans today. It shows up through the Holmes and Rahe scale that getting intimate with one or more others may well be the basic source of stress if you cannot handle the "side effects" and ramifications of love, so to speak. For many of the fourteen main stressors among people in America tie may result from intimacy enough. See for yourself, follow this link and study the strain and stresses of marriage through "the eyes of" the Life Event Scale by Rahe and Holmes. It is based on American averages, and there is no one that is perfectly average, but still . . . And note too that the other half of the coin, so to speak, is that having sex alleviates stress ...
So Yogananda's views look a lot like "minus x minus" becomes "plus" too. That is, "Oh, marry not" and "have next to no sex if wed" seem tolerable to monks, at least at first. And maybe to those who are served by guru dictates too in the way of prestige and status and privileges, among others.
Well, consider the good sides to having a family and decent, warm and fulfilling sex while you maximise their boons and minimise their downsides if you can and where you can. That should help many. Also consider the tensions of adhering to guru statements or whatever that make you lose a lot of good chances to find and get a favourable mate for life - and a possible risk of losing good help against problems you might not get at all if unmarried and hermit-like (cf. the Life Event Scale of Rahe and Holmes again) - and such help is what the fit husband and equally fit wife even delights to offer ...
At any rate, it should be good to study the research findings that the gleanings are taken from - that could be helpful, or what?
A healthy sex life boosts self-esteem, reduces stress and "makes people feel more alive and vibrant. [Linda De Villers, licensed psychologist and sex therapist author of Love Skills. [3]]Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it's a cure. [Thomas Szasz]
I know a man who gave up smoking, drinking, sex, and rich food. He was healthy right up to the day he killed himself. [Johnny Carson]
Should we take advice on sex from the pope? If he knows anything about it, he shouldn't! [George Bernard Shaw]
Billig, Michael. Freudian Repression: Conversation Creating the Unconscious. Cambridge, UK: Cambridge University Press, 2004. ⍽▢⍽ Professor Billig elaborates on Freud's views on repression and the unconscous. Erikson, Erik H. Childhood and Society. Rev. ed. London: Vintage, 1995. Gossop, Michael. Theories of Neurosis. New York: Springer-Verlag, 1981. Satyananda Saraswati, Swami. A Systematic Course in the Ancient Tantric Techniques of Yoga and Kriya. Munger: Yoga Publications Trust, 1981. ⸻. Kundalini Tantra. 8th ed. Munger: Yoga Publications Trust, 2001. Yogananda, Paramahansa. Man's Eternal Quest. 2nd ed. Los Angeles: Self-Realization Fellowship, 1982. ⸻. The Divine Romance. New ed. Los Angeles: Self-Realization Fellowship, 1993. ⸻. Journey to Self-realization: Discovering the Gift of the Soul. New ed. Los Angeles: Self-Realization Fellowship, 2000.
Notes[1] Kathleen Doheny. 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex. WebMD, 21 Dec 2010.www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/10-surprising-health-benefits-of-sex [2] HealthMad. 10 Health Benefits of Sex. healthmad.com/health/10-health-benefits-of-sex/ [3] Eldred, Sheila M. Sex: Top Surprising Health Benefits. Discovery Communications, Feb 25, 2015. news.discovery.com/human/health/sex-health-benefits-20130311.htm
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