Many seem to sell their independence and a large part of their happiness to be members of something bigger than a family. That could be a mistake, but we are not all alike. Still, "Do not fall away from happiness," teaches Buddha.
Encouraging prospects: "To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one's family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one's own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him." [Buddha]
A word of warning: "Charity bestowed on those who are worthy of it is like good seed sown on a good soil that yields an abundance of fruits. But alms given to those who are yet under the tyrannical yoke of the passions are like seed deposited in a bad soil. The passions of the receiver of the alms choke, as it were, the growth of merits." [Buddha]
Accordingly, it should more worthwhile to caution against an undemocratic yoke than to sow good and fair seeds in those under it and upholding it by their passions (id-linked hanky-pankies, neuroticism, authoritarianism, or whatever). Probably.
Use the many following points in a check-list and tick off
To develop the understanding further, sort the answers into five groups instead of two, and you will most likely be rewarded with a more nuanced picture - and hence better understanding of what might be at work against your deep happiness-and-great-freedom, Self-actualisation and happiness hand in hand.
Happiness wells up from deep within. If this spring gets stifled - by repressions, subservience and "guru clogging", unfairness - whatever - then things are not working all right. SRF-members and other sectarians - who have pledged devotion and loyalty to the SRF gurus no matter how mistaken they seem, have been heedless.
Right involvement means a lot
Some former group members and similar may blame their group for much badness, without considering what enticed them to join it. Self-inspection may work well in such cases, but you never know. Some were fooled to enter also.
Authoritarian groups and setting tend to produce authoritarianism in members, if they were not so from the start.
Run through a set of opportune questions and see how many "yes" points you may grant yourself. Don't swerve from looking twice and looking better if it gives help for life. The reason why thinking twice could help some, is that straight answering requires honesty, and it may take a life-time to retrieve it, if possible at all, after rigid sect involvement. If you write down your points you may not forget or push them aside so easily, so writing them down is recommended.
If you consider that "yes" is a fit response to half of the questions above, try not to taking on a further, subservient role in that setting (group). The group appears to have traits fit for authoritarianism, which cults express in their own ways, openly or secretly indecently, as the case may be.
The suggestions below pertain to SRF only:
Being lorded over, also in the private life, suggests being deprived of autonomy. Governing others by a gutter faith works against fair and fit fact-findings.
Fares are Good if They Bring Lots of Good Opportunities
Learn how to live well and hope for conditions that follow suit. You can hardly have the one without the other.
Stay away from silly fares in order to breed good opportunity also.
Stick to the Balanced Mate and Good Ideas
In "Celtic Christianity" monks and nuns typically took to communal living quite like families, and were allowed to have many children in their settlements. [see Aoe]
It is unwise to leak out your own basic frivolity; keep it well guarded. Much nobility shows the way here. What do you think?
Be still very fit for bland, local applications if fit and systematic. Think well in deep, private matters; it may be the best you can do.
Maybe your basic grounding is too scarred for you to cope well.
To Have Assets to Help You Remain Sincere, Is Well
Don't Let Weird Teachings Be Your Lot throughout Life
To obey is "always" an option for a small being. Maybe to get neurotic too.
Recruitment of new cult members under the flag of original quack Christianity had better be stopped. Hopefully those who haven't been initiated may feel free to leave.
The boss who started the church that came to be called a cult, may at times call those who leave "quitters or traitors", without finding fault with his own inconsistent sermonising and bullying.
Many cults claim their self-contradictory guidelines to be infallible or God's will and things like that.
It is easy to be fooled by telltales. But it tends to show up in the long run and in retrospect what the fixed aims of a movement really are, beneath the fine-looking facades and subterfuges. Greed for power, dominance over people, and much wealth and splendour may come to the fore in time - things like that.
An eager SRF adherent who later rose to become a soap star, once said, "Master said all you need to know is in the SRF Lessons." Well, it is not like that. An Arctic Survival Course is missing, for example, and much else.
Another eager SRF adherent, who became a health professional, for some time gave up studies while he hardly got along - so that he could be near the SRF Hollywood Centre.
In many cloisters those who have the roles of superiors, dissuade flourishing correspondence with the men of the world, for the influence is thought to be unhealthy. But it could be the other way round as well. It depends in part on social climates.
In all cases, fever might need to be controlled. Worth resides inside the seeker too, as the Self. It tends to be overlooked.
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