Be a Partner

Spend quality time for success as mates and partners, and things could go better in the long run too. You could end up building "partnership reserves" and partnership success. There are many tips around. "Spend some quiet time together" is one of them. Here is Buddha advice.

We may find and apply decent points wisely, and in time see that many marital difficulties and problems and troubles of others fail to come our way and catch us. Otherwise misery and rueful age may hit us hard:

"Oh, go and get married," said the man, he saw the cat playing (Proverb). A marriage partner from a nest of troubles may not be good for you for some reason or other.

If half of all marriages end in divorce, the odds for getting divorced later, are fifty-fifty. One may take it into account, for the sake of securing one's assets, for example. (Wikipedia, "Divorce demography")

Among those who remain married, many may not be happy and harmonious together either. It is often like that. Many with romantic notions connected to marriage, may be in for a bumpy ride.

Statistics can be very helpful when they show how many marriages flounder. Then you make out the odds you have yourself and see what to do to improve the odds of success with your mate and children, for example. Get to the figures for your country and find out how to bulwark better against such miseries while seeking to build for a good life. There are good remedies, including precautions, including attested prenuptials again.

Judged from all this, we could build sound reserves for health and partnership if we care, find a lovely mate to co-exist with, and are up to what it may take many a morning. It may take years of practice, a lot of practice.

Learn to "go meta" to improve your standing

You could probably do much worse than "going meta" before and during your partnership, in good time. Sound education is "going meta" also, on many subjects.

"Going meta" signifies that one reflects cooly or comments above the situations to round up something that could also be good for oneself. It is like finding some generalised norms or principles. It may also be looking at yourself and possibly yourself and your partner arguing - looking from above your head, so to speak. Attaining a higher perspective, maybe a better understanding, and find a way perhaps, fits a guy better than getting down and out. See what stress there comes with an average marriage - and there are worse marriages than that.

A good marriage counsellor has read books on counselling, also in clear language, and you are free to do such things too. If it does not help the marriage or partnership, at least you have got information of sterling worth. There is more to counselling that nodding at intervals, saying "Hm" or "I'm listening" and so on, seriously. (Hough 2014; Evans 2007; Milne 2009)

What Buddha says of true friends has transfer value to partners too. Besides, he stages roles for husband and wife and other relationships. [Link]

General directions need to be filled in by brilliant "how's" (Hough 2014; Feltham and Dryden 2006; Sutton and Stewart 2009; Taibbi 2009)

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To Be a Classy Partner, Don't Go Away ☼

It helps to avoid being maimed. Some get maimed in marriage life, and many get maimed by overriding conditions in urban environment, by selling many precious hours to large corporations that behave more or less like criminal giants. And some are blessed to see through these very common fares and choose otherwise. The indication of a life well lived includes well preserved freedom, not being cramped, not enervated, and perhaps living to a happy, old age with one's mate or singly, as the case may be.

Rueful Old Age

Be a Partner

Learn to "go meta" to improve your standing

To Be a Classy Partner, Don't Go Away ☼